I think we will all agree, the FLOTUS is and has been a model parent for all of us to admire and her efforts as a Mom were clearly stated when the family moved to 1600 Pennsylvania Ave in 2008-09. Those facts on this subject are indisputable and I will attempt to tell you why I believe so.
The President's statement earlier today reminded us all that, whatever our occupation, we are first and foremost PARENTS. Parenting is the REAL job. Our occupations are temporary jobs, whether they are 25+ year careers in the business world or eight-year terms in The White House -- certainly one of the toughest jobs of 'em all.
President Obama took a few minutes today, to step back from his job and stand at a podium in The White House briefing room and be a parent. In doing so, he helped countless numbers of fellow-parents who shared his pain as we sympathized with and mourned for the parents of some 20 little children senselessly murdered today, one of the two worst days of my lifetime.
Sadly, so sadly, we shared only 1-1-zillionth of the pain forever inflicted on the parents in our neighboring state of Connecticut. The parents, and all of their loved ones, maybe the parents of the parents - the grandmothers and grandfathers - who not only lost their grandchild but also lost their sons or daughters who will never, ever be the same. I just can't write - can't even imagine the depth of their pain, the horror of the parents of those 20 kids and the families of the other (adult) victims of the premeditated crime carried out in Newtown, CT.
One day, my ole boss and, now, thankfully, very good, maybe best friend, Brian, once said to me, "T, you won't even imagine the love you'll feel. It is beyond anything you have ever felt in your life."
He was right.
He was describing the love he has for his wonderful kids, Brendan and Catherine. He was teaching me the real meaning of parenthood.
It took me a few years to "get it," a term I often write about here. Amazingly, even though you love them and are amazed by them as newborns, somehow, the love actually grows.
To have that human relationship taken away in one instant on a 'normal' December school day is beyond the most horrific nightmare, beyond our worst fear, beyond comprehension for any peaceful human being. Even the worst moments of war would not allow for the close-range, direct murder of little children - even in the depths of hell on earth that is war.
I wrote it just before on FB as I tried to gather some thoughts. I have nothing on this. Just nothing left. I will step up and will do my very best to be a responsible parent and I'll try and try and try to process this terrible, terrible experience of our lives.
My thoughts? Life seems to be much harder. It's been harder to live, harder to endure, harder to explain the countless tragedies, the unfathomable but regular occurrences of mass murders in these United States. Harder to endure the meaningless call for control(s) today and why they were not being called for yesterday or the day before. How can it be discussed at this time? Plus, it's hard to know whether it would even matter.
I am typing but I am no longer writing. I am grieving, still. My children are in their nice little bedrooms, safely tucked under their covers, yet they are still so vulnerable. Why?
That was the question my daughter asked of me.
And, I am struggling because I have no answer. And, I am struggling to be able to look my children in their beautiful eyes because they will see the tears welled in my eyes for days and days to come.
They are too smart, too perceptive to try to "act" or "pretend" around them, so I will gather the strength to provide to them some form of semblance or resolve or belief that tomorrow will be a better day and the sun will come up and we will endure and we can make a difference, maybe a big difference.
Tonight, I have no strength. But, I will rest, awake and I will try to do my REAL job, and like Barack Obama, I will be try to be a good parent.
May God Bless the families in Connecticut. The prayers of a nation in mourning are being said for you all tonight, tomorrow and for a very long time ahead. And, we will, somehow, try to help you all.